about your adhd sidekick

why does your adhd sidekick exist?

I build your adhd sidekick because when I was first diagnosed with adhd post-covid, I needed exactly this.

For most of my life, I’ve felt like I was sprinting through fog. I’d wake up with plans and end the day with guilt. I’d start five projects and finish none. I’d remember a brilliant idea at the worst time, then forget it when I finally sat down. My brain was always busy, rarely still, rarely satisfied, and rarely at peace.

When I was finally diagnosed with adhd, it felt less like a revelation and more like a homecoming. I wasn’t broken... I was wired differently. And that difference wasn’t a flaw. It was power, potential, and yes, chaos... but also creativity, energy, and deep empathy.

The problem wasn’t just the adhd. The problem was trying to live in a world not built for people like us, with systems that punished us for being nonlinear, forgetful, impulsive, sensitive, scattered, or slow to start. So I started building your adhd sidekick to flip the script.

This is my way of designing the sidekick I wish I had years ago... someone who gets it. Someone who can explain the weird stuff. Someone who’s been through the trial and error, and isn’t going to preach productivity tips from a neurotypical perch. Someone who knows that living with adhd isn’t about “fixing yourself”. It’s about learning your manual.

I’m building this space for people like me: diagnosed late, exhausted, overwhelmed, brilliant, messy, and deeply ready to understand themselves. Not just “cope,” but thrive.

who is your adhd sidekick for?

I want your adhd sidekick to be a community for all. Whether you're pre-diagnosis, diagnosed, in denial or fully embracing yourself, this is the place for relatable, easy to understand and implement stories, strategies, resources.

this is for you if you started late:

You got diagnosed as an adult. Suddenly, your whole childhood made sense. But now you’re trying to figure out how to undo years of misunderstanding, shame, and compensation strategies.

this is for you if you have tried everything:

You’ve downloaded a million apps, bought a thousand journals, watched every “ADHD productivity hack” on YouTube, but nothing sticks.

this is for you if you can’t switch off:

Your brain goes a thousand miles an hour. You’re always “on,” even when you're exhausted. You struggle to rest because there’s always something unfinished.

this is for you if you struggle with shame and guilt:

You’ve heard “you’re so smart, but…” more times than you can count. You internalized being lazy, disorganized, unreliable... even though you care more than most.

this is for you if you crave structure but rebel against it:

You want routines, but they fall apart. You love planning but rarely follow through. You make systems and never use them.

this is for you if you are full of ideas but stuck in action:

You have brilliant bursts of energy but can’t maintain them. You can be hyper-productive... but only when it’s urgent, risky, or last minute.

this is for you if you want to feel seen:

You want practical help, sure, but mostly, you want to feel understood. Not pathologized. Not gaslit. Not told to just “try harder.”

If that sounds like you, you’re in the right place.

This isn’t just a blog. It’s a sidekick. One that doesn’t shame you, rush you, or try to mold you into something you’re not. One that walks beside you while you figure out what works for your brain.

who's behind your adhd sidekick?

My name is Jay. By day, I’m work a full time job in the aviation industry, juggling flights, freight, staff, and tight turnarounds. By night, I’m building a few SaaS products, designing adhd-friendly tools, drawing little cartoon brains, and trying to outsmart my own executive dysfunction.

I was diagnosed with adhd in my late 20s. It was one of those moments where everything finally made sense and nothing made sense at the same time. Suddenly, I had words for all the things I’d struggled with: time blindness, emotional intensity, “interest-based nervous system,” rejection sensitivity, object permanence with tasks, hyperfocus traps, shame spirals. All of it.

But the diagnosis didn’t come with a manual.

It came with medication (which helped), a few websites (which overwhelmed me), and a million questions. How do I plan my week without spiraling? What do I do when I forget to eat? Why do I feel wired but tired all the time? Is it ADHD or burnout? Or both?

I started building systems. I also started breaking them.

Then I started building better ones based on how my brain works. Loops, not lists. Dopamine-based decision making. Visual cues. Shame-free budgeting. Colour-coded, adhd-proofed life scaffolding. Systems that forgave me when I fell off and helped me get back on.

I’m not a psychologist. I'm not a doctor. I’m not a coach. I’m a lived-experience nerd, systems builder, UI-obsessed problem solver, and stubbornly honest person who wants to help others feel less broken and more brilliant in their chaos.

what has my journey looked like?

Before diagnosis:

I always felt like I had to “catch up” to everyone else. School was a mix of high potential and constant underperformance. I was labeled “gifted” but never organized. I could write an essay in 30 minutes but couldn’t clean my room in three days. I struggled with procrastination, emotional outbursts, forgotten deadlines, lost keys, half-finished projects, and intense guilt.

Diagnosis:

It didn’t come because I asked for it. It came because I burnt out — again. A friend suggested it might be ADHD. I laughed. Then I cried. Then I started researching and couldn’t stop. I related to everything. I got diagnosed. I started medication. The fog lifted but so did years of pain I hadn’t processed.

Post-diagnosis:

It was freeing and terrifying. I felt like I had wasted years. But I also felt hopeful. I devoured books, podcasts, medical journals. I trialled systems. I created rituals. I automated what I could. I made visual trackers, impulse logs, dopamine-friendly budget planners, and more.

Now:

I still mess up. I still forget appointments. I still overcommit, crash, and spiral sometimes. But I know what’s happening now — and I recover faster. I’ve created tools that work with my brain. And I want to share them with you.

what will you find here?

Tools & templates:

adhd-friendly planners, budgeting tools, checklists, impulse-control systems, emotional regulation prompts, and more.

Lived experience stories:

No fluff. Just honest reflections, the hard days and the good days, the shame and the survival.

Tips that actually work:

From someone who’s tried everything and thrown out what doesn’t stick.

Illustrations & visuals:

Sometimes words don’t cut it. I use visuals — like my little brain character — to explain complex emotional and executive challenges in a fun, relatable way.

Humour:

Because sometimes all you can do is laugh. This isn’t a clinical site — it’s a sidekick with a bit of sass.